If I stated the following truth to a group of single women, which is, ?There are lots of wonderful men out there to meet,? they would boo and hiss until my ears fell off. They wouldn?t believe me. If I disagreed with the belief they live by, which is, you shall never find a good man because they?re all gone, what could they point to as the reason they are still alone?

Women (and men) remain alone for several reasons, including their belief that there is no one to find. Other major blocks are that they don?t know where to go to meet someone and what to do when they get there. I know this much for sure: there are some fabulous single guys for you to meet.

Why can?t you meet more men? You have to get out of the house and then look in the right places. Many attractive, nice guys are shy. They don?t go out much. You have to put yourself in the places where men can be found.

You can meet men in the following places:

1. The Gym

Meeting men at the gym is a win-win. Here?s a chance to get in shape and expand your dating world. For lots of guys, besides the grocery store and the gas station, this is the only stop they make on their way to or from work or on the weekends. If you don?t see any men to meet at your gym, try another time of day or another place to work out. BIG TIPS: smile, make eye contact, and say hello. Don?t be afraid to start a conversation! And find workout clothes that are flattering in colors and fit. First impressions last.

2. Sports Events

Men meet their men friends at sporting events, but they could meet you too if you go there. You can watch football, basketball, or baseball at the actual event or in a sports pub where they have a big TV. Wherever the sports are being watched, you will find guys. The Pittsburgh Pirates used to be my favorite baseball team. I knew every player?s stats, where they came from, their batting average, and their pitching strength, as well as the stats of the teams the Pirates played. It was a benign obsession, but I could talk baseball with anyone, anywhere. Cab drivers and I became instant friends when I asked about the players on the team in their city. They were so thrilled to talk baseball with a woman, they wanted to marry me, even though my husband was in the cab. My point is this: if you want to meet a guy, see if you can get interested in something guys like.

3. Male Dominated Professions

Meeting men is easy if you go to where they are. There are trade shows, conferences, and expo shows all over the world that most of us would never know about. They are targeted to a professional niche that has few women. Engineering, aeronautics, industrial computers, electronics, bio-chemistry, automation and instrumentation, building trades, manufacturing, farm sciences, and many more male dominated fields exist where men are absorbed in their work and have a hard time getting out to meet people. Be a sleuth and find out where these groups can be found. Somewhere near you, men are attending a symposium or trade show. Look in your local paper, ask some of your friends, or the husbands of your friends, and hatch a plan to either work in one of the booths, or wander the aisles, looking at the displays. Get creative and determined. Finally, always look your best when you are about to meet thousands of guys!

4. Recreation

How do you meet men? Go take a class to learn how to do some of their favorite things. Try chess, darts, kayaking, fishing, white water rafting, woodworking, motorcycles, golf, scuba, bowling, baseball, mountain climbing, biking, tennis, racket ball, and flying. You aren?t going to find many guys sunning themselves by the pool, shopping in women?s stores, or taking a dance class?though they should if they want to meet women.

5. The Hardware Store

Hardware stores are one of the easiest places to meet men. There are so many appliances and gadgets and interesting materials in a hardware store, you could walk around all day and ask guys questions. You could actually go with a project in mind, like building a birdhouse. Or you could go and find out what kind of a kitchen you would like to have some day. Think of more possibilities for reasons to ask guys questions. Guys love to solve problems and dispense information.

Head out to any of the above mentioned places where guys hang out. Don?t forget to smile, talk, and be friendly. This is how you meet men.

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